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Recently I was e-mailed, via Match.com, by an attractive woman (to the extent that profile pictures can be trusted, anyway) named Kathleen.

I love that name, and her profile made her sound like someone I’d be interested in talking to a bit more, so I replied. I love skiing, although I’m not great at it and I haven’t been on the hill since I annihilated my knees a few years back.

If you want to email customer support for Match unfortunately they don't have a customer service email address.

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And yes, as “mean” as that sounds, appearances matter. Do not pick sex kitten pictures but in your profile write how you want only a serious relationship. You can BE sexually confident, but don't write that -- you'll just attract weirdoes. Somehow, I don't think that 85 percent of women in the online dating world would really choose watching Sunday football and baseball on TV as a favorite activity, but apparently they do.

Nobody will believe you but they will lie to you because that is what you said you wanted but is not what they are interested in.

We exchanged a couple of e-mails and I was thinking that maybe I’d like to meet her in person. I’d love to get back into it, though, but haven’t so far because I hate doing things alone. I have historically hit periods when, as a result of where I lived or the structure of my daily life, I had a hard time meeting women, but I’ve never had trouble getting dates when I was actually around eligible women.

I knew as I hit the send button that I’d never hear from her again. I tried to play it straight, using my profile to tell the wonderful women of the 5280 who I was as best I could – what I do for a living, what I do for fun, what my interests are, and so forth. My experience, though, has begun to make me feel like an untouchable.

Chertorofsky I am a single widowed man age 49 who has met some personable, attractive women on ) because so many profiles that I have seen are poorly constructed and not thoughtfully put together.

Which is why I feel compelled to tell my story of what NOT to write in order to find a mate -- or just a date. Look happy, look fun, look exotic if you want, but the picture you post should be engaging and reflect you. Sometimes the pictures people put up look like they just came out of prison.

The bad thing is that somehow the place encourages us to define ourselves as a checklist of things we like to do.

Shared interests and compatibility are nice, but I’ve always felt like relationships thrive on a chemistry that has very little to do with activities.

I know it’s tough out there, and I know, it’s easier for men than women. Take it for what’s it worth -- free advice from one on the other end. First, ignore any overture that isn't polite and genuine and well-written. That's just some lazy slob who probably can’t write or has decided you are not worth the time to write. Second: Put some honest effort into picking your pictures. If you can't take or own three nice, normal pictures of yourself, then either you have no friends or you’re just lazy or you don't care. I auto skip anyone with only one picture no matter how beautiful. Also be honest -- don’t post pictures that will disappoint in real life. Don't put up three photos where you look great and one photo where you look like you slept with pigs in a haystack the whole night with the caption..." I slept in a haystack all night!

Which is why -- I have a sister after all -- I want to be honest about what works and what doesn’t from a guy who genuinely likes women. I skip anyone whose photo is of them standing in the bathroom shooting themselves in the mirror with their i Phone. When people see you in person they should be thinking that you are as lovely as your picture -- or even lovelier. "I think its cool (sort of) you slept in a hay stack, but if you look like crap in the picture, I'm going to assume that you will look like crap if we ever end up in the haystack together. Do not write “I am a sexually confident woman” unless you want to be with guys who are submissive or guys who think they are more sexually confident and can’t wait to show you. Write what YOU want, not what you think someone else wants. Rather than opting for the expected dinner out, try staying in and cooking your own meal together. Check out local cooking classes in your area rather than opening up your home to a stranger.

But sometimes I am lonely for a partner, a soul mate, a husband. I rarely missed sex: I had tiny boundary issues in all those years of drinking, and by my early 20s I had used up my lifelong allotment. I do love what Wodehouse called the old oompus-boompus when it happens to be in progress, but wouldn’t go out of my way.

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