Guys guide to online dating
2,208 people actually completed our survey last week about online dating. Let us take you through it all, from profile picture, to email exchanges, to meeting and greeting. So here’s what our respondents had to say about dating men.
Including one photo of yourself is not really enough.
Women want to get a sense of who you are – and this can be done through photos very easily.
It’s a combination of helpful tips, deep experiences and some frank examples of what dudes might think about not doing. • “Don’t use ‘lol,’ ever.” • “I have always had a problem with emoticons.
It’s a huge turn off.” • “Write in complete sentences/fully spelled out words maybe?
Also, ugh the whole line about a girl who wears nerdy glasses but also looks great in heels/knows how to be comfy but dresses killer/read the Times in bed on Sunday morning. I actually met four nice men and fell in love with one.” There is a consensus that good hygiene is important. No sweats.” • “Shower and don’t dress like an idiot.” Choosing the right picture of yourself might not mean what you think it means • “Do use pictures of yourself shamelessly holding pets or babies or reading books.
Ughhhhhhh where is the master profile you are all drawing these from?? ’ in your profile, I assume you are a guy who thrives on drama.” 89.7% of respondents agree: Three emails tops, then meet. (We made that figure up, but it’s pretty close.) • “The whole point of online dating is to set up IRL dates. 82,049 respondents would like to remind you to brush your teeth. There are whole Tumblrs devoted to this.” • “Don’t put a picture of you embracing another woman.” • “If your photo is just a bare torso, I am not going to respond to your message. Apparently, according to the vehemence and frequency of responses, a lot of guys are misguided about their height. • “Everyone should be more open about what they want and who they are.” Every single respondent agrees with this, which is well-put: • “If there’s something that you consider off-putting about yourself, no need to harp on it. No need to address it in length on your profile (or even at all); it comes off as bitter and insecure….
(which isn't that great but man, that was, like, the dream of the '90s) or because I was obsessed with coding as a teen (shut up, I was so cool, you guys) or because I work too much or because I'm hardly ever at bars unless I'm performing and even then, when someone hits on me it's like throwing flirtation into the wind and hoping it lands somewhere near my brain. Seriously, if I had a dime for every time a friend told me, "Lane, they were hitting on you!!!
" or even, "Lane, they're totally in love with you and have been for over eight years," I'd have at least 70 cents, maybe 90.
The report, commissioned by dating website Zoosk, also found that men were more likely to have success with online dating if their profile featured a picture taken outside (with 19 per cent more messages), while women who posted outdoors pictures got 40 per cent fewer messages on average.
Susan Quilliam, a relationships coach who runs courses in online dating, said women might be more likely to contact a man who mentions a divorce because this offers reassurance that he is now single.
I wouldn’t say that’s sexist necessarily, it’s just down to gender differences.” She added that selfies were a no-no for men because they so often looked uncomfortable when taking them.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating